Having a kid is one of the best and most precious thing that could ever happen to you, even if it was unplanned. No matter what your feelings are, that life is precious and deserves to be brought into the world. Even if you argue that it’s “your body and you can do what you want with it”, it’s completely unfair to the kid since it did nothing to deserve your ire. It’s all your fault anyway so you take responsibility.
On the happier end of the spectrum, if it was planned, then it can be the best and most amazing thing ever. To know that you made that, and that it came from you, it’s your blood and that is your kid. That’s an amazing and life-changing feeling. For mums, this is especially special and it’s a bond that can never be broken. For dads, it’s a bit different but the love is all the same.
If you’re a dad yourself and you have a little girl, these are the things you need to know about your daughter.
- She wants to be loved
- You have direct influence on her future partner
- Listen to her music
- She’s watching how you treat her mum
- Don’t shrink back as she grows up
- Teach her how to do a real push-up
- Make memories
- Teach her that it’s not about her
- Show up to her events
- Proximity doesn’t equal presence
- Do her hair and nails
- Date her
- Her heart is more beautiful than her appearance
Being a dad to daughters is an honour. Never forget that, because when you have a daughter, you’re basically her knight in shining armour as much as you are the old and wise king that loves his little princess.
Remembering all these bullet points is not an easy task but you should try anyway, if you love your daughter. However you act around her and how you treat her mum is going to affect her when she grows up. Her choice in a lover in the future also hinges on how you acted as a dad to her. Also, it doesn’t hurt to show her that you have a gentle and soft side, hence why doing her hair and nails is also essential as it is fun. Your machismo doesn’t matter in family, pal. Whenever you make mistakes, don’t forget to beg for forgiveness and show her you can be on her level and that you don’t have it all together. You’re only human. Don’t be an arrogant jerk who passively tries to be a dad only because you have a pride bigger than your head. Treat your wife better too. You married that woman and had kids with her. You have a responsibility to her as much as you have one to the children you made.